Public Parenting – or Your Kids Are Pissing Me Off!

Posted: September 21, 2013 in Dumbasses!
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   Today I open my virtual paper; my Yahoo homepage and find this article on a couple in Texas who had the police called on them for creating a disturbance in a local Applebee’s. It seems to this couple that their kids were just being loud and that the restaurant asked them to leave and when they questioned it; the cops were called. Of course the restaurant has to apologize now and are even asking the couple back for a free meal. Really?

   Farther in the article we find that the couple’s children were running around the restaurant and screaming at other people while they were trying to eat their own meals and that the parents themselves were having a loud confrontation amongst themselves at their table that everyone could hear. Wonder why the kids were so out of control? The poor mom says she feels disrespected. Really?

   Here’s a thought. Not a politically correct one. Not a … let the community raise your children for you… type of thought. Not a let’s be friends with our children kind of thought. Not a …we respect our kids like we respect other adults and don’t tell them what to do. That last one comes from Will and Jada Pinkett Smith and their brilliant respected adult thinking son that has just encouraged all teens to drop out of school because education holds you back and we know all we need to know when we come out of the womb. In all fairness to Jada and Will (well mostly Jada because she is pretty rockin’) it’s probably the Justin Beiber/Kardasian girlfriend influence on their young son that brings the stupidity out.

   Maybe…here’s a thought…maybe you and your kids are just DUMBASSES!!

   I worked in retail for many years and I know how poorly you raise your children. I cleaned up after them and I had to listen to them. I’ve left retail years ago, but my wife is a school teacher and I get to hear how crappy your kid’s behavior still is so all these wonderful new ways of parenting that are out there are not working.

   You are not your child’s friend. You are their parent. Your child will have plenty of friends, once you make him or her actually go outside their room and socially interact with someone face to face. No facetime on the Iphone does not count. Dumbass. The difference is that a parent has responsibilities that a friend does not. See, don’t kid yourself, when you say that you are their friend; it’s because it makes the relationship easier on you and not your child. Friends are there to have a good time with and get in trouble with. The Parent is who you call to bail you out. The Parent is  who sets rules and boundaries and tries to guide the child by example and words. The friend helps the kid figure out how to get around all that. And did you notice how I started to capitalize the word Parent? Because Parent is a title. It’s a position of responsibility and authority. That’s really why so many of you would rather be friends. Being a Parent is work.  And don’t kid yourselves, most of the parents I see who want to be friends with their kids are middle-age women who want to hang out with their younger daughters. The cougars are using their cubs to attract prey. That’s all. It has nothing to do with parenting.

   Kids should  behave in public. Kids should not run around a restaurant and scream at other diners. Kids should not throw things around in a public place. Kids who throw a tantrum in a public place should not be ignored by the Parent because eventually the child will run out of steam. The rest of us still have to listen to the little shit until he does! Kids should not be rewarded for bad behavior and neither should their Parents.

   I’ve raised three grown children and I must have done alright because they won’t leave. But that is a blog for another day. I’ve always taken pride in being told by strangers how well mannered and behaved they are. Even as young children. How did I do it? I was never their friend. I was and am their father. I have expectations of them. I hold them and myself responsible for their actions. We fail. We screw up. But we work through it as Parent and Child and we learn from it.

   Pathetic Parenting is a disease. It knows no boundaries because it’s not held to any. It afflicts all races, all families, single parent or dual parent, beliefs and economic standing. The worst part of Pathetic Parenting is that it is completely self-inflicted. You actually choose to be a Pathetic parent.

   So tell me again what a good parent you are on social media and I can count your photos and see how many more there are of you and your friends, your wine, your feet than there are of you and your kids.

   Tell me again about the awesome book you just bought on parenting by this TV celebrity doctor or whatever and how its revolutionizing parenting. By the way, isn’t that the celebrity doctor who’s own kid just went into rehab? Hmmm wonder what that might mean.

   Parenting is hands on. Its learned by doing. Its perfected by what you do wrong more than what you will do right. Your first child will be the test subject and by the third child you might have your shit together. That’s why first borns get all the stuff, they have to put up with more of your crap.

   Parenting is often unappreciated, especially through the teenage years. Don’t worry, as the child gets older, amazingly you as the parent become smarter. It pays little, the work is hard and the hours are pretty crappy. You are on call 24/7. But in the end, the result is well worth it.

   Now if only they will move the hell out!

  

  

  

  

  

  

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